15 July 2016

Good character

Good character is the second quality. It is an important requisite in the search for emptying the heart” and in the pursuit of favorable surroundings for religion. For if she is vicious, ill-tongued, ill-mannered, and ungrateful, more harm than good will come from her. 

Toleration of a woman's tongue would try the saints. An Arab said, 

Do not marry one of the following six types of women: 
an 'annanah [hypochondriac]
a mannanah [up­braider]
a hannanah [yearner]
a hiddaqah [coveter]
a barraqah (narcissist]
a shaddaqah [prattler]

The 'annanah is one who excessively moans, complains, and [always] wraps her head.
Marrying a constantly ill [woman] or one who feigns illness is of no avail. 

The mannanah is one who is constantly needling her husband by saying, “I did such and such for you.” 

The hannanah is one who yearns after a previous husband or after her offspring from some other husband. This, too, is among the things to be avoided. 

The hiddaqah is one who looks at everything, covets it, and forces her husband to buy it. 

The barraqah can be one of two: 
(a) one who spends the whole day fixing her face or making it up and beautifying it in order to give it a lustre, 
(b) one who becomes angry at mealtime, thus eating only by herself and singling out her share from everything. A Yemeni expression which is appropriately used for a woman, or a child, who is not satisfied with the food given to her [or him], is Baraqat al-mar 'atu wa baraqa'l-sabiyyu al-ta'ama, that is, to become angry at meal­time. 

Al-shaddaqah is one who prattles a great deal; in this con­text the Prophet* said, “Almighty God detests the loudmouthed prattler. “

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